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08-05-2005 03:45 PM |
No idea what happened
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Originally posted by Spanky
I could not disagree nore with what Sebastian posted. In by twenty some odd years of dating I can conclusively say that you couldn't be more wrong.
1) My experience is that most woman, especially the older they get, are very wary of any guy. When they meet a guy, and for the first couple of dates, they scrutinize and think about everything he says and does. If you make a wrong move that triggers some memory of a bad experience with a boyfriend you can screw it up. A girl can be really into you and you can screw it up or she can not be into you and you can turn them around on a first date. And it can be really stupid little things that does it. The first meeting and the first few dates are like walking through a minefield.
2) Your whole idea about a woman either being into you or not is way off to. Woman don't know what the hell the want and they change their minds often. If I had a dollar for everytime I heard a woman say about their boyfirend or husband " when we first me I didn't like him at all or he was a total freak and I was not interest in him or he was not the type of guy I dated ...but the story is always the same. They didn't think they were into the guy and then he did something to change their mind.
3) At this point there is not enough information to know what is going through her mind. There were all sorts of mixed signals. She wrote down her phone number (she did not say it to me so I had to write it down) and said she really wanted to go out to dinner. When I called her she seemed shocked that I called. I think she was expecting a call from someone else. She kept saying she did want to go out but I think she is nervous because she doesn't know who I am. - actually this is waste of time because there is no way to know what she is thinking and she may not even know what she is thinking.
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Like I said, she doesn't trust you. This could be for a variety of reasons.
But, er, thanks for the lesson what women (ie., people like me) mean and think. Of course, I am not a 25-year-old Serbian waitress in California who has been approached by a suave, if apparently hirsute, real estate developer guy, so it's not like I'm in a perfection position to say. But I've never had a guy trigger - inside of two conversations - such a bad memory of such an awful prior experience that it compltely freaked me out; there was always something particular about the (new) guy that was an issue. In any event, I don't think anyone meant to say that it's impossible to screw it up/make it better, but her behavior on the phone is at best wary, and most women ifwary enough don't respond too well to further pushing. |
