Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

I'm fine with rational emotions. Let's say you and I are dating RP. If I show up late to something three times in a row and you get pissed, that's a perfectly rational emotion. You could even call me immature.

lies
 

It all depends on the SO and the friend. And someone watching for a longish period of time is not necessarily psycho if she was sitting where you were in her line of sight and she could glance over periodically enough to notice if someone else was there. And not seeing you kiss the women or put your hand on her leg isn't the point. The point isn't that you were fooling around but that you lied about where you were.

I still say however entertaining an evening catching up with an ex might be, your best bet is to not do it if it requires lying.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

I agree. If my husband cheated on me and (a) it was a one-time thing, and (b) didn't infect me with anything, I honestly don't think it would be the end of the world. I don't expect anyone to be perfect. Of course, I would prefer that I didn't find out.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

I'm more likely to call you stupid.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

Prefectly rational given my tardiness.*

*I'm really sorry. Circus. In town. Mistake.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

This reminds me that shortly after my divorce, a college ex started calling me. He would call me at odd times, sometimes drunk, and ask to talk about how I had the courage to get out of my marriage and start discussing details of how unhappy he was in his marriage and how I had broken his heart, etc. He went to great lengths to discuss ways I could contact him without his wife knowing. The kicker -- his wife gave birth to their second child just weeks before these calls started. I was nothing other than polite (and maybe "distant"), but the entire time he talked to me, I thought to myself "what a sleazeball". And "thank god I live several thousand miles away from him now". I'm sure in his mind contact with an ex was wrong, but it was obviously the kind of contact he was initiating, not the fact of contact itself.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

The word "rational" doesn't modify "emotion." I think what you're talking about are proportioned emotions, or predictable emotions,* or emotions with which you, too, can empathize. But not "rational."

*In the sense that they are not unexpected. I don't suggest that you ever attempt to validate your SO's emotions by calling them "predictable." What you get in response to calling them that might be unexpected, unless you expected that you and your nutsack would not necessarily live out your respective lives together.

Lost Breasticle Day Photo!
 

Why didn't this make it to Breasticle Day?

Spree: boobs.

Ollie (digging out from the very unusual NW deepfreeze, and feeling very Minnesota) Ramone

Crank Yankers
 

Apparently, some tool over at AP accidentally forwarded via email his entire rolodex filled with phone numbers from sports icons ranging from Kareem to Peter Angelos to Clemens to the Fraziers to Madden to Stan Mikita.

Gonna be a lot of prank calls over the next few days.

Disclaimer: Any prank calls to Merlin Olson were not from me

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

I would not judge someone for choosing to stay or for choosing to go in that situation. Who the fuck besides her and her husband knows all of the circumstances of their relationship and what the best choice would be?

Book Club
 

I'm glad you liked it, but it wasn't me. I read this, and decided never to pick up the book. Their review of Cold Mountain had the same effect on me -- sadly, after I'd already bought it.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

I meant "rational' in that, objectively, they're expected. So yes, emotions are subjective. Logic is not. Thank you for correcting me.

Didn't everybody date that psych major in college that called every one of your reactions "predictable"? I'm glad I stuck with Econ.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

Hear hear. It's just sex. I wish I could claim that it's our Torontonianism that makes us so mature about these things, but I once had a most severe Torontonian-ex who quite definitely didn't have a sense of humor or perspective about this sort of thing.

Tying threads, this is the same ex with whom I once met up while dating she who is now my wife, and my wife somehow knew that I had seen her once while we were dating (even though she lives, by turns, 3000 and 6000 miles away from Los Angeles, she had been her once for work/research purposes and we got together for a drink). I finally copped to it awhile back, after she asked me for about the 10th time if I had seen this ex since we'd started going out. She somehow just knew based on my response the first time she asked. I guess I'm like Abba - a bad liar.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

This is one reason why you should never discuss exes.

Lies, and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them
 

I haven't done it, and can't imagine doing it. This seems so fundamental to me that I have a hard time even understanding how people can think this way -- their conception of marriage must be very different than mine. But I keep reading here in the hopes that it will become clear.