For PLF
 

That's one step too meta. Now you just look like an imbecile.

For PLF
 

I saw Alanis Morrisette last night. She has revised the lyrics of her song to "Isn't it a bummer, doncha think?" Very catchy. You would have loved it.

Accepting things from other men
 

OK, I have a question.

On my walk home the other day, this guy (Nigerian guy, actually, which might explain ... something) comes up to me and starts telling me about how attractive I am, how he saw me at the corner was like "omigod" and wants to take me dancing, and we don't have to have sex, even though all attraction is initially physical, and upon hearing I was married, asked is my husband jealous, do I want to hang out with him, do I need my husband's permission, etc. etc. etc. Finally, he asked me to take his e-mail & cell no. and e-mail him if I wanted to go dancing (he said the Mr. was welcome, too). I did, thanked him for the compliment and went home in a state of considerable confusion. The Mr. couldn't decide if he should be pissed or not, either at the guy or at me for taking his e-mail & number, though we agreed that there is about zero chance that he doesn't want to get laid.

Let me clarify that this doesn't happen to me much. I look OK, but even when I'm cleaned up I generally don't stop traffic, and at my best I have a definite offputting WASP vibe that doesn't encourage casual romantic solicitations (construction workers wish me a respectful good morning just before they whistle at the woman behind me). And ... damn, he just kept going on about how we should hang out because he found me attractive. It was just odd. He didn't appear to be mad, or drunk, or even desperate, actually, just really aggressive.

Anyhow, my Qs:

How should I have extricated myself from the conversation (short of telling him to go away or I'd seek the police)?

Should I have taken his e-mail & phone no.? Should the Mr. be annoyed that I did (he isn't, he finds the whole thing amusing)?

Is this sort of thing usual? Does this happen to "hot" girls all the time (maybe I cleaned up particularly well that day and wasn't aware of it)? Or was this whole thing as weird as it appeared to me?

Is the Mr. right that "Nigerian guys are just like that"?

Accepting things from other men
 

I would cultivate him. Nigerian men often have incredibly lucrative investment strategies that they would be willing to share with a few discreet friends.

Accepting things from other men
 

You know, I had a milder version of this happen to me some years ago (a guy from Africa, in fact, but a biglawyer, so who knows what that means). He was persistent - same neighborhood, so I would run into him now and then and he really wouldn't take no for an answer. After a (short) bit, I just told him I wasn't interested - no, really, I'm not interested, and after a time or two more of my moving past him quickly and not chatting, he disappeared. So, the answer is, in the situation, just hurry on and say no if you mean no.

On question 2, taking his email and phone no. - no biggie. Are you wondering why you did? It certainly doesn't promise anything to do that (take a lesson from the guys on this one). No, the Mr. shouldn't be annoyed beyond superficially. Unless there was a reason you did.

Yo never know what will appeal to someone. Consider it a compliment, but probably not one to dwell on.

Accepting things from other men
 

I missed you so.

Accepting things from other men
 

My god that fucking baby is huge.

Accepting men from other things
 

I felt the love.

Today was a good day. Among other things (a good lunch, Canadian cigarettes), I won a telephonic oral argument on an issue so small as to be almost wholly insignificant. But the joy I felt as I heard the disappointment in the asshole opposing partner's voice made it all much more than worthwhile. Plus, on the phone, no one can see you mooning the other side as the Judge rules in your favor.

Return of the rude fats
 

No - I took it because I was confused by the whole thing, thought it might encourage him to go away and because I was baffled. Did I mention I was flustered? I'm always looking for new investment partners, though.

Anyhow, for all the anti-rude-fats out there, this article (on Karl Lagerfeld's diet book - basically his philosophy seems to be "fat people are ugly, can't take part in society and can't wear good clothes, so they should develop some fucking discipline and make their personal cooks to feed them quail") is pretty amusing. I think I'll get a copy (through the site link, of course).

http://www.slate.com/id/2120489/

Accepting things from other men
 

"Sorry, but I'm not interested."

Not unless you wanted to have sex with him.

Not unless there is a danger of you seeing this guy frequently. I don't remember if you said you got stopped near work or near home. But encouraging someone you have no interest in makes no sense if there is a danger of running into him again.

No. Most guys are deathly afraid to talk to hot girls. What happened to you happens to good looking girls only when the person finds out that the girl has a boyfriend. Then they play "Nice Guy" and try to be your friend. If you accept, they know your relationship is either bullshit or on the brink of being over.

I highly doubt it.

TM

Accepting things from other men
 

Are you Nigerian?

Accepting things from other men
 

Accepting things from other men
 

I used to know many princes from Nigeria and Ghana. I never played wingman or invested with them though, however we did on occassion take tea.

Accepting things from other men
 

This happened to me a couple weeks ago with some guy kinda walking with me as I was going home from the store. He was friendly chirpy and not like overtly skeevy, and I was polite and smiled but gave him no contact information and he eventually took no for an answer and shook my hand. It did freak me out a bit that he basically could see where I was walking home to, because I think he works near where I live, but happily I have not seen him since. He was of some sort of south of the US border descent, I believe -- not african. In a way it was kind of sweet.

WSOP 2005 update
 

Spoiler:




Raymer busted and finished in 25th place. He got a standing ovation from the crowd.


aV