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Originally posted by Jack Manfred
[big long women and weddings rant]
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Three things (I note that I'm not disagreeing with all of Jack's points, though I think the coming out party thing is pretty silly):
1. Not all women are into the big wedding concept and some even go along begrudgingly with the desires of others (moms, future husbands, etc.). Another problem is that even if the goal is a simple affair with closest friends and family, things tend to spiral out of control due to concerns over hurt feelings of those not invited. blah, blah, blah.
2. Having been to two weddings so far this year, I was reminded how much all weddings are the same. Everyone spends all this time picking out music and readings, etc. and they all end up with the same songs (Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring, Ave Maria) and the same readings (Letter from Paul to the Corinthians). It just cracks me up now whenever I attend a wedding , first thing I do is open the program to confirm that I will hear about how freaking patient and kind love is.
3. I've been watching Bridezillas on Tivo recently (I missed it the first time around) and it is a pretty good commentary on the state of weddings today. It actually doesn't (so far at least) make any of the women seem too out there, but it does show what an event weddings have become and how stressful the planning is for the women having those big events. It seems to me that some portion of the "it's my special day" mentality derives in particular from the amount of freaking work that women do to plan the fucking thing. If you put 200 hours into planning some big party, wouldn't you want to have a really fucking good time there? Otherwise, what's the point?*
And now the gratuitous personal account: When I got married, it was a pretty simple affair that was planned primarily by my ex-mother-in-law (she had only boys, she cared way more about the wedding than either my mom or I did, and she lived in the town where I got married whereas I lived about a thousand miles away). My ex and I gave her parameters and she went to town, running all choices past us. I bought a $400 dress (by no means my most expensive dress/outfit ever) and showed up in town a week early to help with last minute stuff. We had approx. 60 guests. Even so, I'd not go through anything nearly that elaborate again. Just personal preference. Some people get off on having big elaborate parties (and this carries past just the wedding concept) and others don't. If you have a problem with those big weddings, there is a simple solution - check "Will Not Attend" on the RSVP card and be done with it.
*as an aside, a lot of women have a realization after the wedding that all the hard work really wasn't worth it. but alas, they'll never get all the time and money back.
