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Originally posted by dtb
I wasn't talking about the baseball guy (I didn't really follow that part of the conversation). I was just speaking generally about why many men are so freaked out at being hit on by another guy. I think the "unwanted sexual attention" analogy works, although I'm not saying there aren't other things going on when a straight guy gets all bent out of shape when another dude checks him out (or whatever).
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Perhaps it works as simple as this...
If an attractive person flirts with you, you probably feel good about it, whether you're a man or woman. If an unattractive/scary/creepy person flirts with you, you don't feel good about it. You usually think "Huh, what the fuck is he/she thinking?" or "Gross". To a man who is not attracted to men - or can't look at the bright side of these things like me - a man hitting on him is tantamount to a nasty/creepy chick hitting on him. It makes you wonder what kind of vibe you're giving off and makes you wonder how attractive you are. Now, take a super macho fucker like TO and add the element of gay male attention to the mix and you've got a high testoserone cat asking himself "What the fuck does this man think he's going to get from me?" and also thinking "Do I look fucking gay? I'm not fucking gay!!!" And then he does what he usually does in confrontational situations - flip out a bit.
I have never met any woman who was frightened by an attractive guy hitting on her in a polite manner. My guess is a lot of women who feel victimized by leering, whistling workmen are as grossed out at the level of what's leering at them as they are afraid. They're effectively ticked that guys who aren't "in their league" are thinking about fucking them.
