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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Perhaps it works as simple as this...
If an attractive person flirts with you, you probably feel good about it, whether you're a man or woman. If an unattractive/scary/creepy person flirts with you, you don't feel good about it. You usually think "Huh, what the fuck is he/she thinking?" or "Gross". To a man who is not attracted to men - or can't look at the bright side of these things like me - a man hitting on him is tantamount to a nasty/creepy chick hitting on him. It makes you wonder what kind of vibe you're giving off and makes you wonder how attractive you are. Now, take a super macho fucker like TO and add the element of gay male attention to the mix and you've got a high testoserone cat asking himself "What the fuck does this man think he's going to get from me?" and also thinking "Do I look fucking gay? I'm not fucking gay!!!" And then he does what he usually does in confrontational situations - flip out a bit.
I have never met any woman who was frightened by an attractive guy hitting on her in a polite manner. My guess is a lot of women who feel victimized by leering, whistling workmen are as grossed out at the level of what's leering at them as they are afraid. They're effectively ticked that guys who aren't "in their league" are thinking about fucking them.
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I actually agree with that first big paragraph (although I have no idea who TO is, but I don't suppose that's relevant).
However, the second paragraph just isn't cricket; the last sentence especially. My phrase "unwanted sexual attention" is worded that way for a reason. Of course no one is frightened when someone (attractive and polite -- from your hypo) is interested in her/him. The leering/hooting by random strangers is (a) impolite and (b) not infrequently accompanied by a slight feeling of unease. Note, I am not saying "crippling panic" (as was the case with the frozen squirrel), but "slight unease".
I believe I recall your saying you are tall and fit, etc. You are likely not smaller/weaker than at least 50% of the adult population. It's just not "hard wired" into you to feel physical threats at the same point most women would. But why is it so hard for you to understand that remarks from strangers can feel threatening for someone who is (easily overpowered, smaller, etc.)?
