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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I think that a lot of the stuff that you may be bitching about/seeing is the result of bad communication. Something--either you or something in the outside--is bothering her. She either thinks it's stupid and doesn't want to bring it to your attention, or she thinks it's obvious and doesn't have to bring it to your attention. It's also probable/possible that it's already been brought to your attention and you thought it was stupid/trivial/not worth all of the energy that she's giving it. If that's the case, then she's pissed off because you're not sensitive to something that is really bothering her. The thing is, you have to know what's bothering and call her on it if it's bullshit and acknowledge it if it's not bullshit. If you're not talking about it and letting it slide, then you're going to end up in the same pattern over and over again. You're right in that emotions aren't necessarily rational, but they can be valid, and they're damned hard to control. How you react to your emotions, though, you can control. And she has a right to be legitimately pissed off at something you think is idiotic and vice versa.
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Interesting. Makes sense to me. No one was pissed off and there was no fight. I just don't understand how emotions that seemingly pop up all of a sudden out of nowhere can't be controlled. The problem I guess I have is my failure to understand how an irrational emotion that seemingly hasn't been caused by something specific can affect you to the point where you are down or in a bad mood.
(I also wanted to kick start the board.)
TM
