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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
Not a whiff, the question was poorly stated but serious. The operative word in my post was "vaguely". The kid doesn't say overtly racist things, it's more like things where any one of them might seem not much, but once you hear a half dozen you start thinking something is up with him.
Like kids make fun of other kids. When he talks about other kids that are black the way he makes fun of them is a little different than if he was dogging a white kid, but it is something you don't really catch at first.
My kid would reject the overtly racist (I'm confident) I worry more about the understated.
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Understood.
That's tough. If I were you, I would talk to my kid, quite seriously about his friend's attitude. If you sit him down and point out your concerns, using examples and say something like, "He's your friend, I'm not going to tell you
how to deal with him, but I think you should keep your eye open for behavior that doesn't fit with how I know you deal with people who are different than you," you empower your kid and I bet he would take it upon himself to straighten shit out on his own or at least be better equipped to define what is actually 'innocent' and what isn't. It ain't a black-or-white world (so to speak) and developing an ear for that kind of stuff, even though it would seem obvious to adults, is difficult. Good luck.
On another note, is anyone else watching 'Bullshit' with Penn and Teller on HBO? It's shot to the top of my list with a bullet.
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