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Originally posted by mmm3587
2, who the fuck is destroying passports of their ex-lovers? I don't think that I would ever date someone I thought would get all apeshit on me after the fact, including destroying proprerty, calling or e-mailing people (including work contacts) or having knock-down/drag-out arguments in public or any sort of physical violence.

Similarly, hasn't she been with this guy awhile? I think that you owe a person you've been with a while a discussion of issues and attempted resolution before you just get the fuck out. Get your passport and other important stuff during that period. If he was out of the country for three months and she had a key to his place and was gonna break up with him when he came back, why didn't she address possessions-related issues when he was shitting in the snow four miles above the Earth?

Finally, I think the fact that he gave her a key with the intent that she use it means that she has both implied and express consent to enter his apartment using that key, even if the reason is to get her shit so that she can break up with him, or because she has already broken up with him.

I hate to answer this seriously, but I will. I wasn't planning on dumping him while he was gone. I missed him, but I did have a lovely time with friends and doing things i hadn't had time for when he was here. As soon as he got back, a lot of the things that bothered me before were magnified. Everyone around me noted that my personality went downhill upon his return and he did a couple shit bag things you just don't do to someone that you've been with two years who has been taking care of your mail and paying your bills while you're off climbing mountains....for example, cancelling a weekend getaway we had planned because he wanted to go golfing instead. I realized quickly this wasn't how I wanted to spend the rest of my life and at least for me, once that realization hits, I'd rather get to the rest of my life sooner rather than later. Normally, he's a pretty mellow guy but the bailing on him so he'd have to explain to all his friends and family coming into town that we'd broken up really hit a nerve. But I just wasn't up for "faking it" for a weeken and answering questions form grandma on when we were getting married...he thought I owed him one last command performance and I thought opposite. He probably wouldn't have torched my passport, but he probably would ahve made it a real PITA for me to get and was definitely capable of destroying my passport, IMO...so there you have it.
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