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What Would a Fashionista Do?
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Originally posted by mmm3587
I just don't think that it's cool to break up with someone that you've been with for a while without having talked about the reason that you're breaking up with them. I reject the "people are either right or wrong for each other, and you've not going to change that, so I'm breaking up with you" breakup. It's childish and I would never be with a person who I thought would act like that.
What were her reasons? He's too caught up in himself and she doesn't like being around him? First of all, it was immature to let that fester until it made her want to break up with him. If she felt that way, she should have discussed it and tried to understand and change the things in her and him that made that be the case. It's different if it was just a dalliance, but didn't she talk about him and his lunchboxes and truck and all that other stuff all the time?
Maybe I just see things differently as a serial monogamist who would never get married unless he was as sure as he could be about permanence. I've had relationships longer than many of my friends' marriages, and there's never been any violence or destruction of property in the breakups.
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Sometimes things change and there's really no explanation or, more importantly, anything the other person can do about it. Giving an opportunty for the other person to magically change his or her behavior seems like giving false hope to me.
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