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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
sure, but weren't they together for a few years? the guy is just back from an extremely intense few months. I would think you should see how he is a few months after he gets back before deciding to dump his ass.

Example: a friend sailed across the Atlantic with 2 other guys. For several weeks it was just the three of them. For the first few weeks after he got back, he couldn't deal with crowds. He go to parties and we'd find him sitting alone in the yard- he had been pretty social, so it was wierd. turns out he just had to ease back into being with people. After a bit he was the same as he had been.

Lunchbox boy had just gotten back from a trek where he frequently could have died at any moment. For weeks (months?) he was with a small group enduring physical hardship.

He came back to civilization and make a few selfish choices? I think there is a chance that might have been transient behavior. OTOH, someone who would climb Mt. everst is probably so into themselves as to be bad boyfriend material, but that would have been true from the start.

I'm just saying he might change back to the same acceptable level of selfishness if given time.

I probably agree with most of this, BUT I saw something in mmmmmmmmm's post that suggested that after explaining why you're breaking up with the guy (which I agree with) you should be giving some room for corrective action. In my experience, that doesn't work. If someone wants to break up, their mind is usually pretty made up on the matter, and I think that leaving false hope that things could get better is worse than breaking someone's heart.