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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
sure, but weren't they together for a few years? the guy is just back from an extremely intense few months. I would think you should see how he is a few months after he gets back before deciding to dump his ass.
Example: a friend sailed across the Atlantic with 2 other guys. For several weeks it was just the three of them. For the first few weeks after he got back, he couldn't deal with crowds. He go to parties and we'd find him sitting alone in the yard- he had been pretty social, so it was wierd. turns out he just had to ease back into being with people. After a bit he was the same as he had been.
Lunchbox boy had just gotten back from a trek where he frequently could have died at any moment. For weeks (months?) he was with a small group enduring physical hardship.
He came back to civilization and make a few selfish choices? I think there is a chance that might have been transient behavior. OTOH, someone who would climb Mt. everst is probably so into themselves as to be bad boyfriend material, but that would have been true from the start.
I'm just saying he might change back to the same acceptable level of selfishness if given time.
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Partial dissent. The changes to a person after an intense experience are probably overall permanent.
Once I came back from an intense and isolated three-month experience and it took me about a year to deal with the culture shock. Some parts of the shock faded over time but many changes in my perspective were permanent. I broke up with my long-term boyfriend a few months after returning but I knew the night I got off the airplane that I wanted out. A more mature me would have seen it earlier and responded appropriately. Live and learn and all that.
