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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I probably agree with most of this, BUT I saw something in mmmmmmmmm's post that suggested that after explaining why you're breaking up with the guy (which I agree with) you should be some room for corrective action. In my experience, that doesn't work. If someone wants to break up, their mind is usually pretty made up on the matter, and I think that leaving false hope that things could get better is worse than breaking someone's heart.
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Right. Having been on both sides (the one who thinks she can change to please the other one when in fact there's nothing to be done, and the one who is going to leave unless the other person changes), I think that 9 out of 10 times it doesn't work. People don't change if someone is asking them to change - they only do it if they want to do it for themselves - and it's rare that they can actually do it even if they want to.
