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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I'm sorry this has hit you as a shock, but I think it's naive to expect that people won't cheat. Trust gets betrayed casually every day. It happens. Don't get all emotional about it. If you want to stay with your wife, just pretend nothing's happening and realize if you want to stay married to her, you have to accept her, warts* and all. Or else move on. Do you have children?
*actually, if she has warts, and you still married her, I would have to question your judgment.
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Logical advice, but easier said then done. People are emotional in relationships -- that's why we get into them, because we are so overwhelmed with love/desire/affection/eros/agape that we want to be with the other person 24/7. It's got to hurt a lot when you find out that the other person is looking elsewhere for sex/intimacy/toe-sucking.
My advice is similar to gwnc's -- decide if you want to stay with your wife. If you do, then decide if you will be able to live with her knowing that she dallied with Bill. If you can, then do it without looking back.
And if you can't, feel free to wallow in booze. Country songs are good to listen to at this point (and no other point), because they are so often about betrayal of love and trust. Rage, fume, throw shit. Rent a shotgun and go skeet shooting -- blasting tiles into smithereens is very theraputic.
