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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
bn'b, I agree with just about everything you said, except this concerns me. I always want to have sex with other men. Fuck, there are about 20 men I want to have sex with right now. This was the case throughout my marriage (because it's the way it's been my entire life) and I didn't think it was on the rocks until about 4 years into it. I don't think it means anything unless someone actually does something. At least I hope not.
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Of course what bn'b said (and what I agreed with) was a generalization, but I do think by the time a married woman is seriously thinking about acting on lustful feelings and/or creating an opportunity to act upon them, she's beyond feeling pure desire and has an emotional connection (or would like to have an emotional connection) with the object of her desire. Of course that's not the case 100% of the time with 100% of married women, but I do think as a generalization, it's not off the mark. I think it's easier for men (married men) to think it's not that big a deal to have a fling just to satisfy an urge (and I sort of agree - I could see getting past a "fling" thing), and women are more apt to think, "Eh - why bother?" when it's just a fling/sex thing, and are more likely to act on their desires when there is some emotional connection (whether actual or hoped-for).
Maybe we're saying the same thing.
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