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Originally posted by dtb
Are you kidding? Of course they do - I'm just saying MARRIED women are less likely to act on it unless there's some emotional involvement attached, so that what bn'b said about a married woman's cheating (i.e., that she is probably more emotionally invested than she would be in a tawdry one-nighter) is probably right.
Of course women dig it. Of course it's a kick. I think about it all the time (for example, the hot kid who sits next to me would be a good candidate, but for the whole married thing - my being married, that is), but I can't imagine acting on it unless I were otherwise invested in a relationship; it's not worth it to me otherwise.
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dtb got this exactly right. This is what I was trying to say. For me, one of the big signs that my marriage was really in trouble wasn't when I was looking at the cute tennis pro at the club and thinking "yummy". It was when I started trying to figure out how I was actually going to explain the hotel room on the Amex bill if I actually went ahead and did it. Ultimately, I decided to get divorced before I actually had sex with anyone who wasn't my husband, but the fact that I was seriously considering it (rather than just fantasizing about it) (a) was a product of how I felt about the person I was seriously considering, and (2) evidence that my marriage was really over.
