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Originally posted by robustpuppy
This is bullshit. Men are much more adept at avoiding emotional confrontation at all cost than women. They'd rather let shit fester, or walk away without addressing it, then talk it out. Just because a guy is willing to punch someone in the face in a bar or have words over a parking space doesn't mean he's willing to confront real issues.
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This is bullshit. If I have an issue, I just fucking say so. The stereotype of men not asking for directions or clamming up until they explode is nonsense. And I was probably wrong to claim all women are passive aggressive and speak in code.
But I can't help make the generalization when so many of them my whole life have said things like:
"I didn't want to have to say 'Pick up those magazines.' I thought leaving them there for a week would clue you into the fact that they needed to be picked up...'"
"I don't want to have to tell you every time something needs to be done around the house. I want you to be able to recognize when things need to be done yourself."
My favorite, of course, is "I'm hoping you're going to change," which really means "act in accordance with the way I want you to act."
I never did figure out when it happened, but I've been taking orders from several women in my life for a long time. Yet I would never think of telling any of these people to change themselves, and trying to do so would be met with an extreme violent and indignant response. Why is it that some folks - women or men - just decide they get to doctate what the norms of behavior shall be, and expect everyone else to kowtow. My sister calls me up and dictates to me all the time and I just ssit there and say "Ok, you're right." Then I hang up and think "WTF?"
