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Originally posted by paigowprincess
I am wonking here so won't specifically reply to this except to ask, how can any marriage survive the loss of trust? or any relationship? He suspects her of cheating so he cant trust her again, right? And he is snooping, wich means he doesnt trust her and if she knew, she wouldnt trust him. This is toast, even with kids, right?

Actually, I will respond to one of bnb's points. My closest friend from college is married to a guy she has been with for probalby fifteen years or so. One night, before they got married, she and I went out and hooked upwith a couple of brazilian guys. She only made out with her guy but it was like she was swept off her feet. Couldnt stop thinking of him, confided that her then bf isnt good in bed. Fast forward a few years. She marries this guy and develops a huge crush on some dude from the gym. Also confides in me that sex is not great with the husband and when i suggest vibrators, she says she doesnt want to become depednent on that stuff. She is still married to this guy, who worships her, and has two kids. From what I can telll, the kids are the center of the uiniverse and the guy feels a little left out. But I dont think anyone would dream or think of divorce. Maybe its a matter of priorities. You cant have your cake and eat it too.

And fringey, please dont say. mmmmmmmmmmmmm cake. You neither, Shifter. It just isnt humorous

If sexual chemistry is absent, isn't that a sign NOT TO GET FUCKING MARRIED? What bigger red flag could there be? Sexual chemistry, one would think, is a barrier to entry... a threshold requirement for any continued dating, let alone marriage. My wife has a wrecthed foul friend who comments openly that she's really not into sex. She's married to a wretched man. I watch them suck down Parliaments and discuss golf and their kids and think "God, I'd have put a fucking hunting rifle in my mouth years ago if I were in their reality."