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Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
OK, I have a question.
On my walk home the other day, this guy (Nigerian guy, actually, which might explain ... something) comes up to me and starts telling me about how attractive I am, how he saw me at the corner was like "omigod" and wants to take me dancing, and we don't have to have sex, even though all attraction is initially physical, and upon hearing I was married, asked is my husband jealous, do I want to hang out with him, do I need my husband's permission, etc. etc. etc. Finally, he asked me to take his e-mail & cell no. and e-mail him if I wanted to go dancing (he said the Mr. was welcome, too). I did, thanked him for the compliment and went home in a state of considerable confusion. The Mr. couldn't decide if he should be pissed or not, either at the guy or at me for taking his e-mail & number, though we agreed that there is about zero chance that he doesn't want to get laid.
Let me clarify that this doesn't happen to me much. I look OK, but even when I'm cleaned up I generally don't stop traffic, and at my best I have a definite offputting WASP vibe that doesn't encourage casual romantic solicitations (construction workers wish me a respectful good morning just before they whistle at the woman behind me). And ... damn, he just kept going on about how we should hang out because he found me attractive. It was just odd. He didn't appear to be mad, or drunk, or even desperate, actually, just really aggressive.
Anyhow, my Qs:
How should I have extricated myself from the conversation (short of telling him to go away or I'd seek the police)?
Should I have taken his e-mail & phone no.? Should the Mr. be annoyed that I did (he isn't, he finds the whole thing amusing)?
Is this sort of thing usual? Does this happen to "hot" girls all the time (maybe I cleaned up particularly well that day and wasn't aware of it)? Or was this whole thing as weird as it appeared to me?
Is the Mr. right that "Nigerian guys are just like that"?
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You know, I had a milder version of this happen to me some years ago (a guy from Africa, in fact, but a biglawyer, so who knows what that means). He was persistent - same neighborhood, so I would run into him now and then and he really wouldn't take no for an answer. After a (short) bit, I just told him I wasn't interested - no, really, I'm not interested, and after a time or two more of my moving past him quickly and not chatting, he disappeared. So, the answer is, in the situation, just hurry on and say no if you mean no.
On question 2, taking his email and phone no. - no biggie. Are you wondering why you did? It certainly doesn't promise anything to do that (take a lesson from the guys on this one). No, the Mr. shouldn't be annoyed beyond superficially. Unless there was a reason you did.
Yo never know what will appeal to someone. Consider it a compliment, but probably not one to dwell on.
