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Originally posted by robustpuppy
I think being liquored up is no excuse for saying something that hurtful, even if it's to a woman who in theory accepts, as an intellectual matter, that her man may have sexual desires that don't involve her exclusively, and even if they both have acknowledged that fact by opening up their sex lives. It was a threesome, the whole idea was that they both participate, and I think what he said to her would make even the most secure person feel pretty profoundly rejected.
I think the very fact that he could bring himself to say that to his GF means it wasn't a "solid relationship."
Plus, I wonder, if the situation were a potential MFM and it was the GF who said she didn't want the BF involved at all, would this particular POV have been posted?
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And my point is, if you are in a relationship that you care about, you had better examine the range of your feelings on the subject before you go and do something that potentially incendiary. If you do, communications of a nature similar to what occured (absent perhaps the drunken aspect) would probably be discussed and you could examine the potential feelings that might result, if on an occassion one partner or the other said, I'm not interested in the threesome tonight, I want all the cake for myself. If you don't have those discussioins in advance you run a tremendous risk (assuming you value the relationship).
Of coruse, if the relationship is not of consequence to start, who cares.
