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Originally posted by Penske_Account
1. I disagree with your "many" comment. the variables in context here are too great. I find it possible to believe that many 5 month relationships could destruct over that statement, otoh, I find it equally hard to believe that many 5 year relationships could. Of course, the reality is that this is a very specific fact scenario, that probably does not happen in many relationships of any length.
2. I don't claim to have a perfect relationship, I am as certain as I can be that I have one predicated on completely open communications.
3. We have had this discussion, in a discussion of hypos, and I have said, "i might get sick of having you involved and may want to just be with the other F" and she responded, "maybe we will get sick of you and boot your ass out". You can believe that or not, the discussion has been had.
4. I do think, that even for long term relationships that are very solid there are one or two sentence statements that can precipate a splitting (although probably not without further discussion), I think those statements are along the lines of "This is over. I'm done. Fuck you. And don't think the divorce won't be scorched earth, bitch" That one could be a mistake.
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I'm sure there are relationships where both parties are professional boxers, who deal with all their problems by sparring, so one party knocking the other out after they spent too much on shoes isn't necessarily something to end the relationship on.
The point is not to explore the very extremes of every relationship ever to find one in which it would be okay to say what he said. (And I'll note that the conversation you had with your wife stops well short of what actually happened to my friend, but I concede that your relationship (and others, I'm sure) could survive what he said.) But I think few relationships could survive such a deliberate blow to someone's feelings. And I don't think it's possible to get something like that out of someone's head, once said.
But I'm going to end this one early since you couldn't even come up with a good limited-vocabulary insult.
TM
