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Originally posted by Mr. Man
I generally agree. However, I think it's kind of BS that people can't "suffer" and find something with a mixture on the menu, or at least be aware they should keep that in mind. Case in point is our friend who is deathly allergic to shellfish. You are saying I can recommend we go to an oyster bar and he's supposed to have a grilled cheese at home and just sit there and drink? Seems like I should find a different seafood place with oysters on the menu so we can both enjoy.
Of course that rule does not apply to meeting new people or work dinners where someone else is in charge of the choice, as making a fuss over food while in the process of getting food is bad form (other than on the FB of course). To the extent that is your point, I am on board.
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I don't disagree. If you and your friend are going out and you know about his allergy it is asshole-ish of you to drag him out for oysters, particularly if you do it all the time. (Though so many people have shellfish allergies that most oyster bars have a token chicken thing, too.) If you and he and 8 other buddies are all going and everyone else wants oysters, then he should just suffer. If the people he is eating with don't know him well enough to know his allergies already, he could suggest another restaurant if his opinion is solicited, but no special pleading.
I've got an anaphalactic allergy that has had me eating the breadsticks more than once, and I used to be a vegetarian. It's more of a pain in the ass to argue about restaurant choices than to just order the one lousy thing you can eat or grab something at home later. And muy unsociable, too.
BR(that said, I've had people get really pissed at me when we end up someplace where I can't eat, or worse when I can't eat something they've cooked, claiming I should have submitted a detailed list of all my food needs in advance. The explaination "it never occurred to me, I'm hanging with you so I don't care what the food is" seems to shock them. Baffling.)C
