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Originally posted by ltl/fb
In case it wasn't clear from the nevermind, this is the last nail in the coffin of my recent ill-advised crush.
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Sorry to have burst your fantasies. If you like, feel free to still imagine that I am a vibrator-buying, not-joking-about-being-scared-of-women stud while you beantweak.[1]
I just see fundamental problems in buying a vibrator for someone who isn't a particularly sexual person. I am far past the age where I want to be teaching someone about how her body works and how she gets off. If I wanted, say, a fake vagina flashlight or an assplug of some sort, I would want to pick out my own. Picking out sexual toys for others is like brushing their teeth for them; it's a nice thing to do, but it can be done far better by that person for himself or herself.
And, if the woman were a fundamentally sexual person, I think she would either not desire a vibrator, have her own already or want to pick out her own. See poor analogy above.
Anyway, it's not that she doesn't masturbate; she does occasionally. I just don't think that she likes it very much, and I think it takes her a very long time and is a lot of work. She's just not adept in that area, and I don't think that she cares to learn.
So, anyway, I guess we can put this thread to bed, unless you guys want to keep talking about it or littlefb wants to keep insulting me (which is cool, it's kind of hot). I had already been pretty much sure of my decision based on the whole "not that sexually attracted anymore" issue. Also, I'm much more comfortable in relationships where my partner, even if she doesn't want sex quite as often as I do, is really enjoying it and getting her rocks off. My current partner is more concerned with quantity than quality, and the sex bores me. And, in this relationship, I think that is dispositive.
[1] My personal favorite term for female masturbation, to join threads. Derived from "tweaking the bean," a reference to the appearance of the clitoris. British in origin.
