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Originally posted by pony_trekker
My kid who is a solid 12YO player on a mediocre travel hockey team has had a recent rash of anger management issues in practice despite a history of self control.
He has a history of attention issues, but for the most part has played cleanly since he started three years ago. Never winds up in the box, never takes retaliatory penalties.
Last week at practice he took a two handed slash at another player for cutting him in line. He was taken off the ice by the coach, as I didn't see it. There was no injury as he hit shoulder pads, but I warned him that if he did it again, I would take him off the team. The kid he slashed is a little goofy but NOT an aggressive or mean-spirited kid. In my opinion there is no room in youth hockey for behavior like this.
Last night there was a little bit of "going at it" with another player who is a very aggressive instigator. This time, my kid's two-handed slash hit the other kid square on the forearm. My reaction was to ask the coach to stop practice (he didn't see it) and I pulled my kid off the ice and we left practice.
My intent is to follow up on my threat and have him continue to skate on his own if he wants but not to have him play on this team any more. It would be a blow to him and the team but I think it's necessary. I haven't talked to the coach yet.
Folks, I truly respect the opinions on this board. Please tell me what you would do.
Thanks.
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You've gotten good advice here.
You have two separate issues at play. One is whatever is leading to the aggression. The second is a threat you made.
I agree with dtb that it's important that you follow through with the consequences you threatened. I think I'd tell my kid something like "You aren't playing again until you and I have figured out why you're behaving the way you are, and until we figure out how to deal with it better." I'd have him continue to skate, and if you're capable I suggest you get out there and skate with him. At some point (and trust yourself.... you'll know when), you can tell him you think he's ready to go back to the team. But one slip and he's done for the season.
And if he does it again, he's done.
