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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I have a question.
If you are in bed with someone really good looking (really good looking, not just cute) and that person's technique is not all that good, do they get a pass just because they are devastatingly beautiful/handsome? Or would you criticize them to your friends just as much when they are gone as you would someone not so good looking and equally lame in bed?
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Now this is the sort of topic we should have all the time...
1. How you look is part of being good in bed. I don't care how great the technique, if you're really aestehtically unpleasant, your partner ain't going to enjoy it that much. Some folks will say "I love him/her and looks don't matter to me." Bullshit. I don't doubt your deep love, but we both know you wish like hell that your partner was a lot hotter. When you're fucking, you want a hot partner, and there's no way around that fact.
2. A gorgeous chick gets a pass for being mediocre in bed, but not for being bad in bed. Just because you're hot doesn't mean you can "phone it in" all the time.
3. HOWEVER, you should NEVER tell a person before sex, especially if you're drinking and the other person is drinking, just how hot you think he/she is. Every time a chick has said she thought I was good looking I felt like I could totally "mail it in," and if I'd had a few wines with dinner, I did exactly that (although I always made sure to make up for it the next morning because karmically, handing out bad sex will bring you terrible future luck). Conversely, every chick who made me wonder whether she really dug me gave me something to prove, so I worked harder to do the best job I could. So never tell anyone you think they're really hot until after you've fucked them at least twice sober.
4. I think rule #3 only applies to guys, because it seemed that when I tell a woman how horny she makes me, she'd get more turned on, whereas guys are lazy bastards who'll use any excuse to work less.
5. Tell the guy who sucks in bed what he needs to do to fix his technique. Guys are open to that sort of criticism, and if they're not, they're insecure, and if they're insecure, they'll never be good in the sack.
