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Originally Posted by sunnybunny
Ok, I maybe didn't sumarize that well. I was a little bit standoffish on our first couple of dates but communicative about it (just got out of LTR, give me a couple of dates to get in the swing of things again, unless you just want to be a piece of ass, in which case, fine)...then when he went all wackado on me i was like "look, i'm not in any rush and am happy to do friendly stuff and you either will or won't get your head straightened out--I'm in to you and know you're a good person whatever form it takes"--he's been very communicative, and I have too...I just feel like I should maybe give him space to get his head straightened out, but I want the boy in a baaad way and he knows it.
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Jesus H Christ. This has gone from dull to suicide-inducing. You were standoffish but you got in his space but you told him you don't need to be but you want him but you're not sure and is he really ready blah blah blah.
At this point, even I have no idea what you actually want -- a relationship? Happy to just bang him for awhile? A regular dog-walking date? -- or what you've actually done towards that. Maybe you need to figure that out for yourself, and then tell him. Be clear -- "I like you and want to spend time with you, if it's just as a friend I can live with that but I'd really like you to fuck me, in a friendly way at least," for example.
My guess is he'll respond that he's just not ready for that yet, in a Thurgreed-type way. Which I would argue is not sufficiently communicative to merit a blowjob, but opinions may differ.
