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Originally Posted by dtb
That's IT! Yes!! The Freaky Scale -- that's much better because "slut" can be misinterpreted.
Someone else said this I think, but I'd still be curious to know the answer -- would you consider yourself fortunate or cursed (or somewhere in between) to have a partner who was toward the upper reaches of the Freaky Scale? At what point (if any) would your view morph from "blessed" to "cursed"?
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Good question. Everyone wants someone who is sexually skilled and adventurous. The question is, does everyone want someone who became sexually skilled because they fucked 500 people and got lots of exposure to different stuff elsewhere?
To be honest, I would rather my partner say, "You dirty bastard. I've never tried that before, but let's do it! I'm game." Or, "Something I've always fantasized about I would like to try with you." You don't want to hear, "
That's your dirtiest fantasy? Shit, I did that with like two dozen guys already. Hell, I dedicated a whole year of my life to that one and it wasn't even in my Top 5 Dirtiest Years."
Obviously everyone is different and I'm sure a bunch of posters will say they don't feel that way and what happened before doesn't mean anything and they're just appreciative of good sex with the person they love. But I would be lying if I said that wouldn't bother me. In reality, you have to accept the fact that you are probably never going to be someone's first in every freaky category and you can appreciate some skills your partner has picked up somewhere else. And everyone has a different limit on what they're mature or secure enough to handle.
So, in short, I would consider myself fortunate to have an SO who was high on the Freaky Scale, but got there with me. I probably wouldn't make someone who had already conquered the Freaky Scale before I met them my SO, but I would count myself fortunate to fuck around with them for awhile.
TM
