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Ambition and relationships
Much obliged for all the kind advice. Much obliged also for the malicious, if not humorous, attacks and revenge plots against this gal.
Acknowledgements: NCS, your a gem. The guy I’m not callin Coltrane, youre the shit and so are the smart slackers. Shapeshifter who looks like a Slestak dude from Land of the Lost, yea whatever. BRC youre awesome, but Ill give yall a bit more info in a sec that mkes me think shes not a goldigger. Pony Im honored you dont think Im a tool. Hank, no, nuh uh, not a whiner, but you mihgt be right about 5 year plans. Flinty, damn thatd be sweet to call her out in the sack, but thats not my style. Maybe that proves her point. If I was more driven Id say something like that to her. Purse Junkie youre right on. 3M scotch tape guy and Replacement Person, good questions. Anyone I missed, thanks for the thoughts.
To respond, and muddy the waters, now see I dont think shes a goldigger on account of the fact that she recently dumped a shortlived flame who was highly wedged, owns property in a couple states and countries, and is a frequently flier for his successful business. She said his impression of her, even though shes ivy educated, well traveled, and grew up upper middle class, was that she was a hick. She says shes not after wealth, though itd be nice, and that the differences in how they viewed money and what they considered to be refined made for a mismatch.
Now I might not be the driven type for partnership as frankly I dont see myself wanting to be partnered up with some of the asswipes in my office and Id rather have extra time on my hands than money. But its nice of you BRC to still see that Im someone who knows here hes going.
I dont know the motivation behind her insistence that someone be driven and go after what he wants careerwise. I suppose thats a good question to ask her. It does strike me a little odd that shes in her early thirties and hasnt developed a career of her own from what I can see. Shes not a lawyer and was fine with just getting her college degree at 22. I havent the foggiest what she did between 22 and 31. She moved out to my town less than a year ago from another state. Her contract job ended, as did her last relationship, and her sister who lives out here offered her a job managing a project for her business. So shes living with her sisters family and doing project management and some volunteer work. She has 3 o4r 4 other siblings across the contry. Both of her parents are doctors.
Maybe this smacks of rank hypocrisy on her part, but if my ambivalence toward partnership is irrelevant when Im driven in my personal life, than her lack of accomplishment in career should also be irrelevant. All in all Id say shes smart and attractive and does show some strength of character, even if shes a bit misguided.
One other thing she told me that she said was similar to an appearnace of lacking drive was that Im really easy going and havent verbally mixed it up with her. Shes not looking for a fight but said that since shes a strong personality she likes to be met head on intellectually about stuff. I told her Im easygoing but that she aint seen nothin yet. And hell, Im passionate about politics and can hold forth like no ones business, but since she told me she has no interest in politics I thought it considerate not to discuss it with her. Thats about to change.
Well thanks again all.
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