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Originally Posted by barely_legal
Did you have sex with Woman A or just make out with her?
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The former.
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If you just made out with her, then she shouldn't even be bringing up the topic of you dating (or kissing) other woman and the fact that she did is a red flag.
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Had only made out at the time of the kissing comment, and yeah, it was noted as a definite red flag. Which is why I brought up woman B, which she handled well enough to lower the alarm.
After that followed the sex and the previously-scheduled (as in last week) date with woman B.
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If you guys had sex after a few dates, even though it's only been a week, I think the adult thing to do after (or before) the sex would have been to have a conversation about exclusivity.
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Rather than the concept, we specifically discussed the date with woman B. But before the email, my thinking was that this is the conversation that woman A and I need to have.
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People who are online dating are, unless they specify otherwise, usually looking for dates that will lead to exclusive relationships.
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Right, and I am too. I just never expected things with woman A to move so quickly, and, of course, I didn't entirely realize that she didn't mean the things she actually said (or she realized later she felt differently).
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It may be stupid, but I wouldn't want to be with somebody who had a difficult time choosing between me and someone else.
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That seems to be the disconnect.
