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Originally Posted by J. Fred Muggs
Times when it is rational for Adder to call Woman A
1. He finds out that he left something worth more than $200 at her house when he was fucking her.
2. He realizes in the near future that he has an STD.
Times when it is not rational for Adder to call Woman A.
1. Any time not discussed above.
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Years ago, I was in a similar situation as Adder. There was a Woman A and a Woman B. I had sex with A. I had a date planned with B. That led to a series of red flag-filled conversations and emails with A in advance of my date with B. Unwilling to capitulate so early on, I went on the date with B and I had sex with her. The next day, A forced my hand. I chose A (and never called B again, which we'll get to later).
Here's what we can learn from my misadventures:
1.
Do not ignore red flags. That is worth repeating. Do not ignore red flags. The conversations and emails I had at the beginning presaged other high-stakes emails and conversations throughout the relationship and over the precipice.
2. Do not mention other women whom you are dating.
3. Don't have any conversation about exclusivity unless you are willing and
ready to be exclusive with the other person. For those not Adder, I would allow that you could have that conversation to let them know that you're
not going to be exclusive (ever, or for a while, or whatever), but Adder is years away from being able to have that conversation. (No offense.)
4. Women may claim to be all about the sisterhood, but when the chips are down, they're more ruthless than gangsters. As soon as A learned about B, she wanted B out of the picture. After I went on another date with B, A wasn't content with just having B out of the picture. Lessons had to be learned. It was a female friend/wartime consigliere who suggested that I completely cut off all contact with B to placate A. Now A would have been appalled if I had even contemplated doing to her what I did to B, but she was more than happy to let it happen to a rival.
It's like the Sandman sang, before his ghost had to shill for The Man:
Sharks patrol these waters
Sharks patrol these waters
Don't let your fingers dangle in the water
And don't you worry about the day glow orange life preserver
It won't save you
It won't save you
Swim for the shores just as fast as your able
Swim like a motherfucker, swim!
