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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall
I read your link. Elevator guy did nothing wrong. He was respectful and polite. He treated her as an equal. He did not sexualize her, as she claims. He asked her if she wanted to get coffee in his room, which is one of two things: (1) code for sexualizing you later if you're up for it and (2) wanting to talk more over coffee at a place convenient for such a conversation at 4:00 am.
I tend to think that a lot of "creepy" behavior is behavior that might be not deemed creepy (or even welcomed) if the person making the proposal is better looking. I suppose if the guy hadn't established a rapport with her that would allow them both to feel comfortable to make a personal proposition like this, it might be a little weird or creepy. But apparently he'd been part of a group of people who were hanging out with her until 4 in the morning.
Maybe she's just not used to being approached. Whatever. The whole thing is ridiculous.
TM
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I agree, sort of. He didn't do anything wrong. But that doesn't mean what he did wasn't perceived
by her as creepy. I guess my point is that creepy is in the eye of the beholder, and might change from circumstance to circumstance.
Yesterday, for example, I went to Target on my way home. When I walked in, I was going to go use the restroom, but there was a guy just standing outside of the hallway to the restroom, and he watched me walk down the hallway, and something about him and the whole thing gave me the creeps, enough that I didn't go into the restroom and instead went about my shopping. Now, I didn't go home and post a whole angry video blog about why men shouldn't hang about womens restrooms and watch women while they walk towards them... but that doesn't change the fact that I, in that moment, found his behavior creepy enough not to go into that bathroom.
He probably wasn't meaning to be creepy. I'm pretty sure he didn't do anything wrong. But still, I was creeped out.
