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Re: Dating (or not) advice?
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Originally Posted by notcasesensitive
I'm back in the singles game after letting Mr Patience go last month. I've never really done much of the casually dating thing and I find myself with some questions. So I'll ask a bunch of married/coupled lawyer types (hey, are there any singletons out there? or better yet über smug divorcees??)...
What do/would you people do if you went out on a couple of dates with someone and you just weren't feeling the romantic thing but you were open to being friends? Would you tell the person that you are feeling friend vibe (assume they've asked you out again but no firm plans) or would you just not go out with them and leave it at that? Why am I so bad at this? Is there any point to trying to convert this barely-dated into a friend? No, right? So why is it hard for me to just blow someone off? Ugh.
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A good hunk of my friends came on board our friend group because someone met them through a dating site and decided that a relationship wasn't going to work, but that wasn't a reason to throw a cool person out of our lives. Usually, the friend would invite the new person to a party or other casual mass gathering (brunch, drinks after work, etc.), throw the new person to the wolves, and see if integration worked. We've ended up with some pretty awesome people this way.
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