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[Replaced_Texan]

I found this to be a really fascinating article on gender. There's so very much to unpack. Though there was a lot that was unsurprising. The article talks to four transmen about the differences they've encountered after transitioning from female to male. Since we're complex people, intersectionality is part of this, and the first dude who is black has a lot of interesting insight with regard to transitioning from black female to black male. The last dude is of Chinese descent, and he has some stuff to say about the cultural baggage associated with gender too.

This feature/bug, in particular, I find all the time in dudes, but I didn't realize was (possibly) a testosterone thing.

The hormones made me more impatient. I had lots of female friends and one of the qualities they loved about me was that I was a great listener. After being on testosterone, they informed me that my listening skills weren’t what they used to be. Here’s an example: I’m driving with one of my best friends, Beth, and I ask her “Is your sister meeting us for dinner?” Ten minutes later she’s still talking and I still have no idea if her sister is coming. So finally, I couldn’t take it anymore, and I snapped and said, “IS SHE COMING OR NOT?” And Beth was like, “You know, you used to like hearing all the backstory and how I’d get around to the answer. A lot of us have noticed you’ve become very impatient lately and we think it’s that damn testosterone!” It’s definitely true that some male behavior is governed by hormones. Instead of listening to a woman’s problem and being empathetic and nodding along, I would do the stereotypical guy thing — interrupt and provide a solution to cut the conversation short and move on. I’m trying to be better about this.