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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall
No offense, but is it nice to always give everyone the benefit of the doubt in every interaction? Seriously. I have many faults, and a big one is that I absolutely do not have this ability (based on experience, mind you, but that can't be the only reason). Do you feel even more angry when it turns out you were completely wrong?
TM
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You know, I was going to make a flip remark and move on, but I think that your question is worth an actual response. (And, no, I am Not Offended.)
I probably do tend to give people the benefit of the doubt regarding their intentions more than is normal/warranted. The one area in which I give fewer benefits of the doubt (is that how one would make that plural? I miss dtb) regarding people is that I almost always assume that, no matter what they may say, they are acting mostly out of self-interest.
Who knows the cause of my pathological* niceness? Insecurity? A need to be liked? Residual Catholic guilt? Irregardless** of the cause, I think it’s not always served me well professionally. I hate doing performance reviews, and if I think someone is trying, I will cut them (too much?) slack. That’s caused many annoyances, additional unbillable work for me, and one major problem for me with a client because an associate sent the wrong version of a document to him for review. It was repaired, but it wasn’t easy.
Anyway. Um, carry on.
*An exaggeration, but not a huge one.
**I really do miss dtb.
