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Originally Posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Yeah, except here's the thing... Tiny little point: You did not rape anybody.
I've beaten the shit out of a couple people and a couple people have beaten the shit out of me. We used to do that as kids, as I'm sure you did, too. Is that fighting culture? Perhaps. Could we call that murder culture? Not unless we wanted to sound frivolous.
Pinching butts and grabbing bras is sexual assault. It's not rape. That a professor somewhere decided to coin it so to suit his or her aims doesn't change the meaning of the words, and it never will.
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You absolutely cannot be this dense and literal.
Contributing to a culture in which sexual assault is laughed off, excused, or (as in RT's example) leads to punishing the fucking
victim is part and parcel of what we're talking about when accusers are grilled about their sexual past, what they were wearing, how flirty they were. It's the culture that allows a Brock Turner to act contrite in front of a judge and get a minimum sentence for sexually assaulting an unconscious woman in public. It's about "boys will be boys" and "It's just horseplay," and "He does that because he
likes you." It's the culture in which we laugh about prison rape or accept it as part of someone's sentence. It's about conditioning girls to be constantly aware of what they're wearing, how they're acting, where they are, how much they drink, what they say, how they act. It's about conditioning boys to not worry about any of that shit, even when it involves harmful, awful behavior. It's about shifting focus away from the accused and putting it on the accuser. All of that shit contributes to an atmosphere--a
culture in which rape is more of a danger than it should be. It's about developing a culture in which a senator can scream at the top of his lungs about how a guy who has been accused of multiple assaults is having his life ruined by those he allegedly victimized right before he puts him on the highest court in the land. Rape culture. And it's a broad term for a reason. If you can't understand the term beyond the most literal reading imaginable, you're being intentionally ridiculous, because you're not that stupid.
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Originally Posted by sebastian_dangerfield
If people wish to use this overheated lingo, they will always face a person playing the part I am playing here. They will face an army of us, as a matter of fact. We'll hear the words, recognize the inaccuracy and obvious attempt to conflate the merely bad with the deviant and criminal and become skeptical of what the person is saying. They won't lose our support, because what they stand for is right and noble. But they will lose some respect.
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Nah. You're the one who's losing respect.
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