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[Hank Chinaski]

Originally Posted by ferrets_bueller

Hank:


My sympathies. I've been going through this for the last ten years with my mother, who is currently a 96 year old batshit crazy, full blown doesn't-remember-me incontinent dementia patient at a very good Sunrise "Remembrance " unit five minutes from my house. The staff thinks she's funny because during her limited periods of wakefulness she barks curses at them like an overserved drill sergeant. There is no explanation for her continued existence other than a circulatory system that should be studied by science.



We got her two doctors to write a determination that she was a dangers to others behind the wheel 10 years ago. I was simply able to take her keys, unlike the problem you have. I set her up with a very local cab company while she still owned her own home. My brother bought the car for one of his children for bluebook value. We then redid her will, medical directives, and power of attorney to my brother and me.


She sold her home at her insistence, and although there was some risk, she signed the paperwork. Simpler.



Shortly thereafter she became incapable of caring for herself. We got her round the clock care until, at 92, she tried to pummel the saintly lady taking care of her. Off to Sunrise.


Please consider services that were in very nascent stages ten years ago, such as a local equivalent of Peapod by Giant or Whole Foods' delivery service. The Uber/Lift duopoly mentioned by others is a great alternative. Set him up with Grubhub. If he can't use a computer, ask him what he wants and you can order the deliveries.


There are transport companies that specialize in medical transport to doctors, physical therapy, and the like.



My neighborhood is experimenting with a Florida phenomenon: Extremely limited golf cart use on public streets. My quiet suburban locale in Northern Virginia (remember the discussions sneering at such a barren existence?) now allows golf carts that can get to a major grocery without going on a road other than a two lane 35 mile an hour road, except for crossing US Rt 1 at a stoplight. Several of my neighbors do this.


Be prepared for the resentment that you know is coming. Nothing you can do can stop it. Try not to lose your sense of humor. I'm reliably informed you have one. Good luck.

thanks. no smart phone is a problem. supposed to be cabs out front of his place (it's a small town of old people), and of course a shuttle- somehow that isn't enough. Delivery could be good, but I think he wants to get out.