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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Hearing TM's example made me wonder how many people here would/have actually lied to their SO* about something like that (much less concoct an elaborate plan to do so, along with accomplices)... And if you would/have done so, why?
I have a (weird?) thing about lying to or being lied to by my SO. If I ever found out he did something like this, I would rage. Seriously. If something is not innocent enough for you to tell your SO where you are going, why do it? If you think that your SO would not condone your behavior either because s/he would be irrational or because s/he had reason not to condone it, isn't it important to communicate about that stuff?
Anyone?
*I apologize upfront for overuse of this term in the following post - no better way to convey serious committed relationship here
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If you meet up with an ex (without any "interaction"), you're not doing anything wrong. But I don't care how honest you are with your SO, that person is better off not knowing about it.
Not telling/lying is better for everyone. If the SO knows, she gets suspicious/jealous/any other emotion that, given complete information about the situation, is irrational. Who wants irrational emotion? You can keep telling her that her reaction is off-base, but it will be pointless. Why not avoid any unnecessary conflict. A conflict that, given complete information,* would not occur.
*by "complete info", I mean access to your thoughts/feelings.
