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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Ok. Would your analysis/approach change at all if your SO had upfront, early in the relationship let you know that lying about that sort of stuff is unacceptable?
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Good question. I guess it would depend on whether or not we had the "It's okay for you to have a drink with an ex and I'll never make a big deal about something like that and I'm signing this affidavidit attesting to same" conversation. And I've that conversation. You guys mean it at the time, but when you run into an ex who is hotter than you, it's like it never happened. "Oh,
She's your ex? You didn't tell me she was that cute/funny/smart/whatever. How much time did you spend with her? How long are you going to be out? What did you guys talk about? Etc. Etc. Headache.
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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
I guess from my perspective men* seem to be so adverse to having a mildly unpleasant conversation about something that instead they risk a much larger fight and future trust issues. Not a good tradeoff IMO.
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You're right. But if I'm not out all night, what's the big deal? The much larger fight will end. And the chances of it actually even taking place are very, very slim.
TM
