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Originally posted by taxwonk
Because nobody needs to know everything about anyone, ever. Because sooner or later, we all have secrets. Because it isn't worth ending a relationship built over years over something that occurs over hours.
And no, I'm not saying I have lied to/cheated on my wife. Nor am I saying that I haven't. I'm not confessing a sin, bragging about a conquest, or trolling for a date with Less. All I'm saying is that after having been with someone for about as long as some of you have been alive, I am willing to admit that there's a lot more gray in the world than there is black or white.
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After reading all this, all I can say is that men underestimate a woman's ability to understand or cope bc they might ask a couple of questions to get the facts straight, and that women appraently overestimate a man's ability to cope. Men are jealous babies and women are understanding and rational if they have reason not ot be threatened (and all they need is facts if the relatinship is healthy). In my last two relationships, both exes have met with their exes and while I wasnt thrilled about it, I talked to the SO and got the facts, told them what I thought, and let them do their thing. It was a nonissue in the healthier relatsioship bc I trusted the guy. and trust is necessary fora relationship. if there is trust and a history of disclosure and honesty, there should be no problem with such things besides a raised eyebrow that can be easily lowered after the intiaial surprise.
