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Originally posted by paigowprincess
After reading all this, all I can say is that men underestimate a woman's ability to understand or cope bc they might ask a couple of questions to get the facts straight, and that women appraently overestimate a man's ability to cope. Men are jealous babies and women are understanding and rational if they have reason not ot be threatened (and all they need is facts if the relatinship is healthy). In my last two relationships, both exes have met with their exes and while I wasnt thrilled about it, I talked to the SO and got the facts, told them what I thought, and let them do their thing. It was a nonissue in the healthier relatsioship bc I trusted the guy. and trust is necessary fora relationship. if there is trust and a history of disclosure and honesty, there should be no problem with such things besides a raised eyebrow that can be easily lowered after the intiaial surprise.
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Part of the reason people are having different opinions on this might be the nature of the meeting. You might be talking about two different meetings.
You seem to assume they're talking about a quiet drink for an hour to talk over old times. I can't imagine many SOs not being able to handle this.
But the original hypo was a night out drinking for several hours. Not catch-up; fun. For this not to be likely to turn sexual would require a friendship I certainly don't have with any ex, but maybe someone does. If I did want to go out drinking all night with an ex that would be a hard thing to sell the wife.
But, I agree with you that not being honest would seem very wrong, and damaging to the relationship even if she didn't find out.
