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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Great. That clears it up. I wish you had posted this earlier.
It is easier to say something beforehand than having to explain afterwards. But it is even easier to say nothing at all and never deal with it again. And if it is truly innocent and nothing happens, why do all of you have such a problem with it?
TM
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I have a problem with it for two reasons -- (1) your scenario involved you actively doing things to cover up the meeting - I don't understand why lying about it to the SO would be the right thing to do, and (2) even if you went with the "it didn't come up" thing, meeting with an ex is the type of thing that a SO would probably want to know about, so if you are not actively lying, you are still keeping information that is relevant to your SO from him/her.
Really to me it is about honest communication and building trust. You think there's no problem as long as you don't get caught. I think there is a fundamental problem with the communication in the relationship.
