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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Why do you care Ms. Obvious TM asks.
TM
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In my relationships we talk about everything anyway. ad nauseum. So why wouldn't we talk about this?
I deal with the ex thing all the time. If there seems to be some romantic attachment and I am uncomfortable I let the gf know, but I am not angry if she goes, nor do I say she shouldn't. I don't think I have the right to tell a woman who she can and cannot see.
Normally, if gf in question knows I am uncomfortable, I find, the night doesn't last long, or she invites me to go along, if she still goes. Same thing in reverse. It just isn't an issue for me. I'm not a particularly jealous person, I don't assume people are lying to me, and I assume the best of intentions. Yes, I am naive, I know this. I don't plan on changing. I am not however so naive that I haven't learned that when someone doesn't tell me about something, there is normally a reason for it, and a reason I won't like.
Such is the case here. When a woman goes out with another woman and doesn't tell me about it, every single time, when I find out, and I always do, small community - big gossips, it always turns out to be something bad.
