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Originally posted by Fashionable But Anonymous
Another anonymous request for marital advice. I know. So passe. But I trust the collective judgment of the people who reside here, so here goes nothing.
I've been married for 6 years and have been with my spouse for 9. Lately things have been deteriorating. I've been losing interest in the relationship and entertaining thoughts of divorce. There are no children involved, so the thought of it sometimes tempts me. The problem is that it's hard to convince myself I would rather risk being alone for the rest of my life than be married to my spouse.
On the other side of things, I really don't want to give up on this relationship. I think it is still salvageable and I have invested a lot of time and effort in it. I love my spouse dearly and know em loves me. There have been no extra-marital shenanigans or anything like that, as far as I know.
The main issues really stem from what I think are attitudinal/psychological problems my spouse has. Em worries about things too much and is generally negative. Em has little to no sex drive. Em is difficult to talk to about these issue. I hate the word "em". Em went to a couple of counselling session but stopped going due to a perception that the problems had been discussed and addressed.
In my opinion, my spouse really needs to go back to counselling. Perhaps I could use some too? I am a pretty positive person, but em's negativity is really getting to me. It is harder and harder for me to deal with, and the lack of consistent sexual congress doesn't help. It's a lot of hard emotional work for very little reward.
I know I need to talk to em about this stuff, but what I don't know is whether this relationship is truly worth fighting for. I suppose only I can answer that question, but I'm looking for comments from you. Perhaps you know a couple who experienced something similar and was able to come out of it OK. Maybe the opposite?
Thanks for your comments.
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THis is fake. Is it e/o trying to stir up posts? Its like a law professor trying to present facts for advice in both directions, and the no kids thing ensures thatpeople wont get sidetracked on that tedious nonsense or that it wont be a slamdunk stay together yell from the bored.
happy scrolling to me.
