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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Sex is like the booze in the downstairs liquor cabinet. Tell your kids its forbidden and evil and they'll want it more and abuse it when you're away.
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I beg you not to have kids until you start thinking rationally.
Parenting involves the constant creation of artificial consequences to substitute for the real-world ones that are too remote for the kid to understand or appreciate. You teach the kid to predict the good and bad consequences, some of which are entirely of your creation. Sex has consequences. The good ones are obvious; the bad ones far less so. If a parent does not help the kid to understand them --- including by the creation of artificial consequences --- the kid does not magically turn out knowing how his or her behavior will turn out. Em winds up thinking that consequences are randomly assigned, and there's no harm in risky behaviors.
I do not understand how you reconcile "no one under 25 knows what they want" with "teenagers and preteens should not be discouraged from having sex, 'cause that will only make them want it more."
