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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
Same with the no kids thing, but I would think "is this guy going to be the center of her universe for the next six months and is he worth all of the tears and phonecalls and gossip and worrying and dieting and primping and all of the rest of the annoying teenaged angst that goes with teenaged girls being in luuuurrrrvvvveee that I will be forced to endure?" is probably another question that gets asked a lot when looking at that punk that your kid seems to think hung the moon.
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Teenage heartbreak and generally dealing with members of the opposite sex are part of the process of growing up and becoming an adult. I know women who I envision being the kind of women whose parents were protective in those ways. I envision that having been the case because they are helpless, spineless and unable to have meaningful healthy adult relationships with normal men, often because they're involved with ones who treat them like shit.
It's one thing to protect one's children from abuse, disease, pregnancy, low self-esteem, etc. It's another entirely to try to make all your kids' decisions for them and prevent them from ever becoming self-sufficient adults who can make their own decisions about what sort of people to get involved with.
Here's a related question for the men here: let's say that you know for sure that you don't want to be a father. Maybe you just know that you don't want to be one now, or with your current SO. Maybe you even are about to get a vasectomy, or something like that. Whatever the background, you don't want a kid now (and maybe never). But your SO gets pregnant surreptitiously. Even if you decide to leave the woman, do you not want to be a part of the kids' life? Even though I am pretty sure that I don't want to have kids ever, I don't know that, if I were to become a father, I could really not be involved in that kids' life. Hell, you're going to be involved financially. Given that constant reminder, I don't know if I've got the will power to not be a father to the thing.
Confidential to a woman I know: if you got pregnant accidentally because you weren't on birth control because you want to have children really badly and your husband forgot to pull out, that's not an accident.
Finally, all this surreptitious pregnancy talk has got me thinking about Mamma Mia. Here I go again. Was it ever revealed who the daughter's father was?
