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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
Once my wife got pregnant and daughter popped out, we lost 2 couple good friends who were less fertile. If you can make kids like ordering Domino's be thankful, and understanding with people who work in the "trying for months" shit into talk about Sonny-Jim. This I command you.
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Well, I get that pretty well. Actually, as the parent of twins with a growing set of friends who are also parents of twins, I probably have a disproportionate number of acquaintances who had trouble conceiving (most multiples these days are the result of some form of fertility treatment). Plus, every time I mention to someone that I have twins, I get asked if they were the result of fertility treatment*, and then I get to hear all about the various stages the person (or her sister, or cousin, or best friend) has gone through.
So I get that. But what bothered me was the idea in this woman's head that she has a special reason to be concerned, because her child would be harder to replace. I mean, damn that's cold. It's one step away from explicitly saying Bilmore shouldn't be upset if his oldest shows signs of lead poisoning, 'cause there's plenty more where s/he came from.
I guess I'm saying that once the kid is out, any issue that is a threat to the kid is about the kid, and not about the parent.
*Note that this question is extremely rude. But to preempt, the answer is no. And to run through the other rude questions: No, I'm not disappointed that they're not a boy and a girl. No, we're not trying to have a boy, so actually we
are done. Their mother is running some other errands.**
** I reserve the substitute the answer "their mother passed away" if you are particularly condescending in the manner of asking me why two small children are out with just their father instead of with their mother where they belong.
