A sad, constant bid for attention - Page 156

dtb · 10-04-2006, 10:49 AM

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Originally posted by Spanky
I would not say all, but I would defintely say a large majority. I am sure most of the males on this board have had the experience that when in a coed group many men will claim they are not attracted to young women, and don't undestand men that are. But when you are in groups of just men, that statement is rarely, if ever made.

I would suggest that the same peer pressure that you blame/credit for those who don't admit their alleged attraction to teenagers in coed groups may be working in the single-sex groups. Who wants to be the "loser" who isn't into a hot 16-year-old?

Shape Shifter · 10-04-2006, 10:49 AM

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Originally posted by Spanky
Thanks for the support. I appreciate how hard it was for you to do that.

GGG thinks that a forty year old man that tries to solicit sex from a sixteen year old boy is a pederast and he thinks it is abnormal for forty year old men to be attracted to sixteen year olds (male or female).

Here was my response to that:

I wouldn't consider a man that is attracted to or solicits sixteen year olds is a paedophile or a pederaist. I think it is normal for men of any age to be attracted to sixteen year olds. In most states it is not even a crime to have sex with a sixteen year old. It also very common (and was extremely common in our history) for men of all ages to mary sixteen year olds.

Should forty you old men solicit sixteen year olds, no. Should you cheat on your taxes. No. But many men are tempted to. That is just a cold hard fact. A homosexual that tries to have sex with a sixteen year old, is in the wrong. But are they acting on impulses or desires that are abnormal or deviant? Absolutely not.

Hugh Hefner is eighty and has a twenty year old girlfriend. Is that wrong, probably. But there are a lot of men that are jealous of him.

Many sixteen year olds, expecially women, are physically women. That are completely developed. Mentally they may be immature but physically they are all grown up. And to deny that there isn't a physical element to sexual attraction is just ridiculous.

His conduct was wrong because he was in a power position over the boy and for other reasons. But to say that the average homosexual is not physicallyl attracted to some sixteen year old boys is pure B.S. It is just a denial of reality.

I think you should have this discussion with the parents of the kids who come over to your house to play.

ltl/fb · 10-04-2006, 11:13 AM

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Originally posted by Shape Shifter
I think you should have this discussion with the parents of the kids who come over to your house to play.

Depending on what "abnormal" and "deviant" mean (obviously they are synonymous with "wrong" but I'm not sure what shadings of meaning Spanky gives them), I think it may be both of those for a 40 y-o to solicit sex from a 16 y-o.

Not if they are meant in a scientific/statistical way, though, because on that I don't know -- don't have the data.

greatwhitenorthchick · 10-04-2006, 11:17 AM

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Originally posted by Shape Shifter
I think you should have this discussion with the parents of the kids who come over to your house to play.

Ha. My $0.02: I see Spanky's point, however, I think he's avoiding recognizing that small subset of men who consistently date older women (for whatever reason). I'm just glad they exist because I like them (part of it is it makes me feel young -- probably one of the reasons some men like younger women) and aside from a brief phase when I was really young when I experimented with older guys, I am not attracted to them at all. Different strokes. But I do agree that youth is highly prized and sought after.

Replaced_Texan · 10-04-2006, 11:23 AM

I'm going to a Quinceanera this weekend. I've never met the kid, but her mother was a good friend/coworker until she moved away about a year ago. I think mom is sort of using this as a way to reconnect with old friends, and since I like her a lot, I have no objection to going to her kid's coming of age celebration to catch up. However, I don't have really a way of interrogating mom to find out what the girl wants/needs/is allowed to receive. It's been awhile since I've been 15, and I don't really know that many 15 year old girls.

Any ideas what to get a 15 year old girl for a major birthday?

Hank Chinaski · 10-04-2006, 11:25 AM

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Originally posted by ltl/fb
Depending on what "abnormal" and "deviant" mean (obviously they are synonymous with "wrong" but I'm not sure what shadings of meaning Spanky gives them), I think it may be both of those for a 40 y-o to solicit sex from a 16 y-o.

Not if they are meant in a scientific/statistical way, though, because on that I don't know -- don't have the data.

PLEASE PAY ATTENTION! Spanky is talking about how people feel on the inside- society can define those feelings as good or bad, however, that is not his point. Why is 18 a magic number? It isn't, and Spanky asks if crossing it might well be malum prohibitum, and not malum per se.

ThurgreedMarshall · 10-04-2006, 11:25 AM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
any advice on how the Tigers should pitch him?

Sure. Use someone other than Nate Robertson.

Jeter: 5 for 5.

TM

ltl/fb · 10-04-2006, 11:28 AM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
PLEASE PAY ATTENTION! Spanky is talking about how people feel on the inside- society can define those feelings as good or bad, however, that is not his point. Why is 18 a magic number? It isn't, and Spanky asks if crossing it might well be malum prohibitum, and not malum per se.

Spanky: "Is solicitating a sixteen year old for sex wrong? Yes. Is it abnormal or deviant no. Now I have covered solicitation."

I think it is not normal (average -- normal as the antonym of "abnormal" and "deviant") for a 40 y-o to solicit a 16 y-o for sex. I can believe it is normal for a 40 y-o to look at an attractive 16 y-o and have sexual thoughts.

Soliciting is action, not internal feelings.

Hank Chinaski · 10-04-2006, 11:29 AM

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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Sure. Use someone other than Nate Robertson.

Jeter: 5 for 5.

TM

Yankees are scary. He might have been our best chance of stopping you guys. We'll see.

Shape Shifter · 10-04-2006, 11:31 AM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I'm going to a Quinceanera this weekend. I've never met the kid, but her mother was a good friend/coworker until she moved away about a year ago. I think mom is sort of using this as a way to reconnect with old friends, and since I like her a lot, I have no objection to going to her kid's coming of age celebration to catch up. However, I don't have really a way of interrogating mom to find out what the girl wants/needs/is allowed to receive. It's been awhile since I've been 15, and I don't really know that many 15 year old girls.

Any ideas what to get a 15 year old girl for a major birthday?

A date with Spanky?

Shape Shifter · 10-04-2006, 11:32 AM

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Originally posted by Spanky
A personal example to help support my point:

True Story: In 1994 I was having a party at my house in Tokyo. It was a four story town house and my bedroom was on the top floor. I went up to my room to grab some CDs and found one of my friends (who was also a client who owned a major record label in Tokyo) who was forty three at the time, was talking to really attractive model (who worked for an agency I represented) who I guessed was around twenty. They clearly had been fooling around but stopped when I came in the room.

I detest Prince, and had a large label on my stereo that stated no Prince was allowed on the Stereo. Of course one of my comedian friends, while I was upstairs, put on the Prince song "1999". While I was changing my wine stained shirt, and the two of them were waiting for me to leave, my friend said that he wanted to be in Manhattan for the Millenium and asked the hot model where she wanted to be. She said she didn't care but she would be excited because she was going to turn twenty one just two days before the millenium.

My friend, who had a fifteen year old daughter completely freaked out and immediately left without saying a word. The fifteen year old model looked at me totally perplexed and said "did I say something that caused him to freak out?".

Where were her parents?

taxwonk · 10-04-2006, 11:33 AM

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Originally posted by Hank Chinaski
we need spanky, not some mouthpiece.

Does this mean you've just talked yourself off the board?

Belgrade Bimbo · 10-04-2006, 11:33 AM

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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
I'm going to a Quinceanera this weekend. I've never met the kid, but her mother was a good friend/coworker until she moved away about a year ago. I think mom is sort of using this as a way to reconnect with old friends, and since I like her a lot, I have no objection to going to her kid's coming of age celebration to catch up. However, I don't have really a way of interrogating mom to find out what the girl wants/needs/is allowed to receive. It's been awhile since I've been 15, and I don't really know that many 15 year old girls.

Any ideas what to get a 15 year old girl for a major birthday?

When I turn 15 last year, my friend give me date in wine store. I very much like. Good idea!

ltl/fb · 10-04-2006, 11:33 AM

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Originally posted by Shape Shifter
A date with Spanky?

It's not a date. It's watching Deer eat. A Nature walk or viewing or whatever. And if her body is pretty mature already because of all the hormones in the milk she's been drinking, well, then I'm sure her mom will be sympathetic to hearing that while it might be wrong to have solicited her for sex, it's not abnormal or deviant.

Shape Shifter · 10-04-2006, 11:34 AM

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Originally posted by Belgrade Bimbo
When I turn 15 last year, my friend give me date in wine store. I very much like. Good idea!

Bravo!