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[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally Posted by Adder

As you all are aware of the generally rather juvenile nature of my romantic experiences, I have a scenario to ask about. So I decided to do online dating, which led to a date with woman A last week. Lagging a bit behind that I was also trading emails with woman B and scheduled a date with her for this week.

In the intervening time, I actually ended up seeing woman A two more times eventually hooking up. Obviously I kind of like woman A. Then had the first date with woman B last night, which also went well and who I also liked, at least as much as you can tell over an hour and a half chat.

For some reason I felt the need to tell woman A about the fact of the date with woman B (well, specifically because of some comments she made), which in hindsight was probably unwise.

So, I am sure it's shocking to all of the much more experienced and adult people around here, but for me sex has always meant at least de facto exclusivity and I've never really been in the situation of dating/sleeping with one women while also trying to date another. Is it unfair to woman A to want to also pursue things with woman B? Obviously we've only known each other for a week, and there can be no expectation of exclusivity.

This is simple. Do you like woman A enough to be exclusive with her? If so, confirm exclusivity with her. If not, don't tell her anything and have some fun until you find someone you want to be exclusive with. At the exact moment you feel like you'll be devastated if woman A finds out and dumps your ass, you should probably start being exclusive.

TM

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally Posted by Adder

As you all are aware of the generally rather juvenile nature of my romantic experiences, I have a scenario to ask about. So I decided to do online dating, which led to a date with woman A last week. Lagging a bit behind that I was also trading emails with woman B and scheduled a date with her for this week.

In the intervening time, I actually ended up seeing woman A two more times eventually hooking up. Obviously I kind of like woman A. Then had the first date with woman B last night, which also went well and who I also liked, at least as much as you can tell over an hour and a half chat.

For some reason I felt the need to tell woman A about the fact of the date with woman B (well, specifically because of some comments she made), which in hindsight was probably unwise.

So, I am sure it's shocking to all of the much more experienced and adult people around here, but for me sex has always meant at least de facto exclusivity and I've never really been in the situation of dating/sleeping with one women while also trying to date another. Is it unfair to woman A to want to also pursue things with woman B? Obviously we've only known each other for a week, and there can be no expectation of exclusivity.

The only thing I have to say about this, (and leaving aside anything I would or wouldn't do in your situation) is that when you sleep with more than one person whom you are dating, there is always the potential for misunderstandings and hurt feelings, no matter what. This potential is there regardless of whether you consider it socially or morally acceptable or unacceptable to sleep with more than one person.

Of course there is always the potential as well that no one will get hurt feelings, so there's that too.

[Flinty_McFlint]

Originally Posted by greatwhitenorthchick

The only thing I have to say about this, (and leaving aside anything I would or wouldn't do in your situation) is that when you sleep with more than one person whom you are dating, there is always the potential for misunderstandings and hurt feelings, no matter what. This potential is there regardless of whether you consider it socially or morally acceptable or unacceptable to sleep with more than one person.

Of course there is always the potential as well that no one will get hurt feelings, so there's that too.

Just for the record Gwinky, I will never get any hurt feelings from you as you have always been my favorite and I am quite possibly sociopathic. See you in June?

[Penske 2.0]

Originally Posted by greatwhitenorthchick

The only thing I have to say about this, (and leaving aside anything I would or wouldn't do in your situation) is that when you sleep with more than one person whom you are dating, there is always the potential for misunderstandings and hurt feelings, no matter what. This potential is there regardless of whether you consider it socially or morally acceptable or unacceptable to sleep with more than one person.

Of course there is always the potential as well that no one will get hurt feelings, so there's that too.

I'm a risk taker, and as such, I would go all in on the last sentence, and double down. And by double down I mean pursue both in the hopes of eventually scoring a threesome.

Adder, YMMV, no offence.

[greatwhitenorthchick]

Originally Posted by Flinty_McFlint

Just for the record Gwinky, I will never get any hurt feelings from you as you have always been my favorite and I am quite possibly sociopathic. See you in June?

June it is!

[Penske 2.0]

Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall

This is simple. Do you like woman A enough to be exclusive with her? If so, confirm exclusivity with her. If not, don't tell her anything and have some fun until you find someone you want to be exclusive with. At the exact moment you feel like you'll be devastated if woman A finds out and dumps your ass, you should probably start being exclusive.

TM

Maybe I'm jaded at this stage, but the thought of going from unattached to exclusive in a couple of weeks makes me want to hurl myself out of my corner office with the bidet changed to my arse.

[Adder]

Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall

This is simple. Do you like woman A enough to be exclusive with her?

That's a good question. Had the possibility of woman B not arisen concurrently, I wouldn't have had any problem sliding into de facto exclusivity with woman A. So I guess that means yes?

But I think woman A may also have other online dates on the calendar, or at least did but might have put them on hold.

Clearly she and I need to discuss. A week seems kind of early to be exclusive though.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally Posted by Adder

That's a good question. Had the possibility of woman B not arisen concurrently, I wouldn't have had any problem sliding into de facto exclusivity with woman A. So I guess that means yes?

But I think woman A may also have other online dates on the calendar, or at least did but might have put them on hold.

Clearly she and I need to discuss. A week seems kind of early to be exclusive though.

wait, it sounds like you told her about B, right? what did she say?

[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally Posted by Adder

That's a good question. Had the possibility of woman B not arisen concurrently, I wouldn't have had any problem sliding into de facto exclusivity with woman A. So I guess that means yes?

But I think woman A may also have other online dates on the calendar, or at least did but might have put them on hold.

Clearly she and I need to discuss. A week seems kind of early to be exclusive though.

Translation: No.

TM

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally Posted by Adder

As you all are aware of the generally rather juvenile nature of my romantic experiences, I have a scenario to ask about. So I decided to do online dating, which led to a date with woman A last week. Lagging a bit behind that I was also trading emails with woman B and scheduled a date with her for this week.

In the intervening time, I actually ended up seeing woman A two more times eventually hooking up. Obviously I kind of like woman A. Then had the first date with woman B last night, which also went well and who I also liked, at least as much as you can tell over an hour and a half chat.

For some reason I felt the need to tell woman A about the fact of the date with woman B (well, specifically because of some comments she made), which in hindsight was probably unwise.

So, I am sure it's shocking to all of the much more experienced and adult people around here, but for me sex has always meant at least de facto exclusivity and I've never really been in the situation of dating/sleeping with one women while also trying to date another. Is it unfair to woman A to want to also pursue things with woman B? Obviously we've only known each other for a week, and there can be no expectation of exclusivity.

Tell them both that they must fight for your love and then swoon when they agree to do so.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally Posted by Penske 2.0

Maybe I'm jaded at this stage, but the thought of going from unattached to exclusive in a couple of weeks makes me want to hurl myself out of my corner office with the bidet changed to my arse.

And you call yourself a risk taker.

[Atticus Grinch]

Originally Posted by Adder

That's a good question. Had the possibility of woman B not arisen concurrently, I wouldn't have had any problem sliding into de facto exclusivity with woman A. So I guess that means yes?

But I think woman A may also have other online dates on the calendar, or at least did but might have put them on hold.

Clearly she and I need to discuss. A week seems kind of early to be exclusive though.

It's conundrums like these that make me long for the days of yore, before I was born, in which nobody owed anybody anything until they were publicly engaged to be married, and when premarital sex was both widespread and illicit so it carried with it the thrill of exploitation and heartache, rather than resentment and girl-talk postmortems about whether a shitbag cheater "owed" you exclusivity due to the depth of your feelings on the matter.

I try to honor these days of yore in my own life by managing not to stick my dick into people, and by imagining that I used to get a lot more action before I was married than I really did.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall

Translation: No.

TM

Sounds like it. Plus until he tries b on he can't know if he is taken with A a's opposed to being taken with the prospect of getting laid regularly.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski

Sounds like it. Plus until he tries b on he can't know if he is taken with A a's opposed to being taken with the prospect of getting laid regularly.

Yep. He should insert Tab C into Slut A and Slut B.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally Posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?

Yep. He should insert Tab C into Slut A and Slut B.

You're suggesting playing A against B? How about it add's you may be able to be the first guy I know to actually get a blumpkin iypycr.