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[dtb]

Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
[A]fter two years of bickering, several other severed relationships as friends and family took sides, a possible defamation suit, and a good several hundred thousand dollars, the judge agreed that they were never married.

Jesus H. Christ on a popsicle stick. If all that stuff isn't evidence of a marriage, I don't know what is.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally posted by dtb
Of course what bn'b said (and what I agreed with) was a generalization, but I do think by the time a married woman is seriously thinking about acting on lustful feelings and/or creating an opportunity to act upon them, she's beyond feeling pure desire and has an emotional connection (or would like to have an emotional connection) with the object of her desire. Of course that's not the case 100% of the time with 100% of married women, but I do think as a generalization, it's not off the mark. I think it's easier for men (married men) to think it's not that big a deal to have a fling just to satisfy an urge (and I sort of agree - I could see getting past a "fling" thing), and women are more apt to think, "Eh - why bother?" when it's just a fling/sex thing, and are more likely to act on their desires when there is some emotional connection (whether actual or hoped-for).

Maybe we're saying the same thing.


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Damn. I feel for your intenet boyfriend. This is all very complicated.

Don't you think sometimes the act precedes the thought/ emotion/ handwringing?

[dtb]

Originally posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy
Damn. I feel for your intenet boyfriend. This is all very complicated.

Don't you think sometimes the act precedes the thought/ emotion/ handwringing?

I wouldn't know.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by dtb
I wouldn't know.

I think an experiment is in order. In the name of science, of course.

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by cuckold
I suppose my biggest issue is whether I confront her or not. I could just leave and not say why.

You've got to have it out. Otherwise everything you leave unsaid will eat at you, and at her, and it won't make the divorce any smoother, and sometime in the future it's going to bubble up in some unexpected and ugly way. It might bubble up in your saying "mommy is a big whore" to your kids instead of "you are a big whore" to your wife.

The truth is never as bad once it's out there, once you say it, as you think it's going to be. The thinking it is much, much worse.

[ltl/fb]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
You've got to have it out. Otherwise everything you leave unsaid will eat at you, and at her, and it won't make the divorce any smoother, and sometime in the future it's going to bubble up in some unexpected and ugly way. It might bubble up in you're saying "mommy is a big whore" to your kids instead of "you are a big whore" to your wife.

The truth is never as bad once it's out there, once you say it, as you think it's going to be. The thinking it is much, much worse.

Your avatar kind of looks like it might be saying "Mommy is a big whore."

Great. Now I have that phrase in a fake baby voice (not a fake-baby voice) going through my head.

[dtb]

Originally posted by Shape Shifter
I think an experiment is in order. In the name of science, of course.

Hmmm. Well, if it's in the name of science.


I believe we have offer and acceptance here -- can I get a ruling?

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
The problem with a lot of women in these situations is they don't come right the fuck out and say what they feel. This may sound sexist, but women seem to be more passive aggressive. They let the bad shit build and then handle it poorly, whereas a guy is used to just confronting an issue and having a blow-up over it.

This is bullshit. Men are much more adept at avoiding emotional confrontation at all cost than women. They'd rather let shit fester, or walk away without addressing it, then talk it out. Just because a guy is willing to punch someone in the face in a bar or have words over a parking space doesn't mean he's willing to confront real issues.

[dtb]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
This is bullshit. Men are much more adept at avoiding emotional confrontation at all cost than women. They'd rather let shit fester, or walk away without addressing it, then talk it out. Just because a guy is willing to punch someone in the face in a bar or have words over a parking space doesn't mean he's willing to confront real issues.

Word.

[spookyfish]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
This is bullshit. Men are much more adept at avoiding emotional confrontation at all cost than women. They'd rather let shit fester, or walk away without addressing it, then talk it out. Just because a guy is willing to punch someone in the face in a bar or have words over a parking space doesn't mean he's willing to confront real issues.

Oh yeah? Say that to my face, bitch.

[dtb]

Originally posted by spookyfish
Oh yeah? Say that to my face, bitch.

Heh. I always knew that tag line of yours was just a big 'ol joke!

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
This is bullshit. Men are much more adept at avoiding emotional confrontation at all cost than women. They'd rather let shit fester, or walk away without addressing it, then talk it out. Just because a guy is willing to punch someone in the face in a bar or have words over a parking space doesn't mean he's willing to confront real issues.

Look, can't we just enjoy our dinner?

[robustpuppy]

Originally posted by Shape Shifter
Look, can't we just enjoy our dinner?

Maybe you'd rather have dinner with your internet girlfriend.

[Shape Shifter]

Originally posted by robustpuppy
Maybe you'd rather have dinner with your internet girlfriend.

You want to know how I'm feeling? I'm feeling pretty fucking hungry, okay? Can we just eat now?

[Not Bob]

A snippet from sebby's trial in TCOTU last week:

That Long Weekend is Finally Here!

Lawyer #1: I now ask that this binder be admitted into evidence.
Lawyer #2: We would object to that, Your Honor.
Judge: What is your basis for introducing this into evidence?
Lawyer #1: The "moving things along faster" basis.
Judge: Denied.

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