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			| Fugee | 08-21-2006 04:51 PM |  
 Enough hole digging!
 
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		| Originally posted by patentparanyc
 All kidding aside this has kind of fucked with my head.  Which is I am sure, TM's goal since he's all about the truth, and being "honest" and basically messing with people's heads.  If that was your goal, good man, then you've achieved it.  But me being me I reserve the right to consult a second opinion :)
 
 |   You need to quite while you're only as far behind as you are.
 
1.  You picked the wrong person to meet IRL if you wanted an ego stroke.  He's not being unduly harsh and I don't think he's trying to mess with  your head.
 
If you've ever really read Thurgreed's posts you have to know he's one of the tougher "graders" here when it comes to looks.  Other guys might think you are pretty but he doesn't.  So what?  He's one guy.  The only problem is that he's the one you invited to report back on your looks.
 
2.  You're overreacting.  He never said you were ugly or butt or any of the other things you've been posting out of hurt feelings.  There's a whole lot of territory between not pretty and ugly and it's where most of the population lives
 
3.  There is a big difference in how people perceive the attractiveness of a stranger and someone they know.  I have a friend whose sister was Miss USA but I think she is prettier than her sister because of her personality.  People who know you and think you are pretty are considering you as a whole.  That should  be much more important to you than what TM, or anyone else who doesn't know you, thinks.
 
4.  On the plus side, he said you had a nice personality (or something like that, I don't want to scroll back to find out).  Considering the board persona you had established before you met, that's a huge compliment.
 
5.  You are investing waaaaaaaaaaay to much emotional energy in what TM and a bunch of anonymous posters think about your looks.  Actually, you are investing too much emotional energy in what anyone but you (and probably your husband) thinks about your looks.
 
So let it go. |